Making It To The Club

This was a heavy Adoption Activity Week for us. It started out with the first of 2 appointments for Operation Finding The Perfect, Most Knowledge, Adoption Friendly, Easy To Get Into During An Emergency, Pediatrician. After all, you really need to be thorough about this kind of thing. We didn’t realize how important it is to find a physician that is experienced with adoptions and has patients that have been adopted. It really boils down to



a medical record issue, or a lack of medical record issue. Our visits were twofold - First to assist in filling out the adoption application in regards to health issues of potential birth moms and second, to see if the doctor would be a good fit when we do have our baby.

Both pediatricians are wonderful, kind and knowledgeable physicians. Did I mention patient? We came in with 10 pages, yes 10 pages, of questions. For the sake of simplicity, let’s call them Doc A and Doc B. Doc A takes our insurance, has a close location, and has a great bedside manner. Doc B has all those things, although not located as close as Doc A. However, (drum roll please), Doc B is an adoptee, himself. Bingo. Jackpot. So Doc B will be our doc when we will need one. Sidenote: Doc A’s nurse asked us when we came in, “When are you due”? Granted, she didn’t know why we were there maybe, but this is specifically what we were referring to above. A little sensitivity regarding a delicate situation like adoption goes a long way.

The week ended with a much needed and very anticipated, Couples’ Night Out. We met up with some friends for drinks, food and reconnecting. It’s worth mentioning all the couples except us have children. They have been great friends of ours for a long time and know what we have and are going through. Over the years, we have attended many baby showers, children birthday parties and been at the hospital for several of our friend’s children’s births. While we wouldn’t change being included in these amazing events, it is obvious to us that we aren’t really part of that club.

That changed a little during this night out. Now that we are moving forward with adoption, there are so many things we need advice and direction with. Part of the list includes: Daycares, nursery furniture, carseats, to nurse or not to nurse and even who gets up with the baby in the middle of the night. We were blown away with the honesty, open advice and funny stories our close friends shared with us. Sitting there, discussing daycares and child rearing over potato skins and wine, we realized something. For the first time. We are here. We made it. In the club. And – we are going to be ok.